The Sun has a hilarious comparison of advice for the marital bed, 1894 vs. 2008. Back in the day, it seems, the only advice a women needed about her sex life with her husband was how to minimize
it. Feign headaches! Ruin his afterglow with nagging! Lay still and silent, and never remove your thick cotton nightgown! Cautioned a popular advice author of the time, "Give little, give seldom and above all give grudgingly. Otherwise what could have been a proper marriage could become an orgy of sexual lust." Yeah, because that's the problem with modern marriages--they develop into 20-year-orgies of sexual lust.
"Why does great sex so often fade in couples that love each other as much as ever?" That's gotta be Question One for marrieds in sex counseling. Check out this YouTube advice video from Mating in Captivity author and therapist Ester Perel. Not only does she have zhee sexee French accent, but she has her finger on the paradox that causes bed death in sweet couples: "While love needs closeness, desire needs space to thrive." I don't know if asking her husband to pay for blowjobs is going to be every woman's solution, but you get the idea: in order to find your spouse erotic, you have to push him out of the familiar role you see him play every day.
No, not the way you think--the depressed women are taking the Viagra themselves. You see, since sexual dysfunction is a side-effect of many anti-depressants, some women were giving up on their happy pills once their conditions had stabilized. But taking Viagra a few hours before sex helped 72% of the test subjects enjoy screwing again. Sometime in the near future, women will be able to have their mental health and orgasms, too. Anyone out there ever popped a Viagra for a little off-label recreation?
