Apparently, and according to my husband, I don't like to do anything fun.
I need help. I'll start off by saying that in the small town I live in in Colorado, I have often complained (quite loudly) that there is nothing to do. In fact the hub has often stated the same and said that all I like to do is go shopping. New flash for him... If all I liked to do was go shopping, I sure as hell wouldn't live in a small mountain town, as I'd be in NY or LA or Minneapolis at the Mall of America.
As of late, I have found some things to do by joining various non-profits and attending their functions. Great private concerts, volunteering at a triathlon, school functions for the 5er, etc. Problem is that as of late, he won't go to any of them with us (me and the 5er).
Here is the dilemma. He has an event that he attends every year and I always go and be supportive. This year I am considering not going. Kind of as a way of saying, "See how much fun you have on your own" and also because spending an entire evening talking about hunting doesn't really turn me on. Am I mean? What are your thoughts.
Hunting doesn't do much for me either, but not sure if this is the best approach. If it means a lot to you to have him go to your affairs, maybe just come right out and tell him that you'd really appreciate the company and support. And, if he can't see that, then tell him that you'll no longer be preparing his game for dinner and he'll have to settle for take out road kill.
If he doesn't go along to your stuff, I'm sure he won't think it's mean that you don't want to go to his event. But it seems like what you are really asking is, "How do I get my husband to go to my events?" And I don't know the answer to that!
I agree with with post #1. I say just say it how it is. Tell him that you would like to him to attend your affairs. If you've already done this maybe try a different approach or try to figure out why....besides that he doesn't want to. Maybe all you need to do is ask him in a different tone. I know with my husband I have to just come right out and tell him what the plan is and that I would really like him to go. That I won't be mad if he doesn't go but, it would be nice to have him there with me.
I don't think telling him that you won't go with him is really the way to go. Make a deal with him tell him you'll go to his event once a year if he can go to one or two of your events a year.
Your doing these things for you! Good Job for taking that step! Just remember, this is for you, NOT him. If you want him to go with you find something that you'll both like....maybe even make that decision together.
Kelly Reynolds
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If I can do it so can you!
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